Strive for progress not perfection!

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The pic on the left was me when I was in my ‘photo shoot & fitness model’ prime. I lived & breathed training & aimed to be lean ‘all year round’. I put SO much pressure on myself & was coached poorly by a few trainers so I ended up cutting out food groups to get lean a lot of the time. It was a struggle to maintain that momentum & it was so god dam tiring… I could never really relax, I was always thinking about making sure I still had abs & if I was ‘photo shoot ready’! Don’t get me wrong this time of my life was a huge part of pathing the way of who I am today.. I worked hard & I got rewarded. I am so thankful for the opportunities that came my way back then & know that this time in my life served it’s purpose for me. I feel having lived that life that I can now tune into what women need & understand them in a way that others can’t!

Fast forward 3 years and there I am (on the right) 6 months post baby and feeling more complete and happier than ever! These days I am super kind to myself, I am enjoying life and I am training with more purpose. I DON’T cut out food groups and I eat food that you wouldn’t deem as healthy (mostly on the weekends ). Being a full time mum and starting my online business on top of training and being organised to eat healthy has been challenging at times and I have had my fair share of melt downs but I have never dwelled or believed that I couldn’t achieve things that I want too in my lifetime!
The reason I am sharing both of these pics and giving you a run down is that I want you to look for inspiration in the right places. You can not compare yourself to the images that flood your feeds of lean and ripped bodies. You don’t know what is going on in anyone’s life so how can you compare?! Use the images as motivation to smash your training for sure but stop thinking that everyone else has the perfect life & body as half the time that isn’t the case! I believe in Yin & Yang, life can not be roses all of the time, you need the balance of the lows to help you grow & evolve! Embrace your body and learn to accept it for what it is & all that it is capable of! Stop wishing, dwelling, dreaming and start doing!!

Justine xx

See how I got myself into shape post baby here
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This blog is for all the amazing mums out there!!

In your life you can only be as good as YOU can be. Far too many times I hear and see mums comparing themselves to other mums, they see images of celebs and think that they have it all together and that they have perfect lives. It’s easy to do as there are people out there that will only post about rainbows and sunshine and glamorize everything but the truth is NO one has the perfect life or the perfect body! If you are going to get down when you see these images of other mumma’s making it look easy then unfollow them or use your common sense and realize that it’s all about their image and it isn’t always what actually is

This is me in a nutshell 😉

I have days where I want to tear my hair out, I am tired, I am in my PJ’s most days before 4pm, I hardly leave the house apart from driving to the gym (thank goodness for the gym crèche), I have NO help from family and my fiancé (who goes above and beyond) works big hours! My bum is now a lot saggier and since I have recently stopped breast feeding my boobs have lost their shape. I have developed a pain in my wrist from feeding and carrying Leo that is super painful at times. The only time I get to myself is when I go to the gym otherwise I am a full time working mumma and I spend my days watching cartoons and singing nursery rhymes that I thought I had forgotten. I try to work on my lappy when Leo is asleep or when Matt is home, it is a tough gig at times but I DO get things done!
I’m sharing this with you ladies so you know that I am there with you, I have my struggles that I deal with daily but I choose to get up and make the most of the time that I have, I am now the queen of multi tasking!! The gym and my health keep me from falling in a heap, that’s why I’m so passionate about helping other mums feel good about themselves and to not beat themselves up over the uncontrollable’s
Being a mum is the most rewarding yet toughest job in the world and I wouldn’t change a thing.. I would love it if all mums would support one another without judgment and understand that we are all in this crazy roller coaster of a ride together!!!

The best thing that you can do is make yourself proud everyday just by doing YOUR best and not comparing yourself to anyone else! Just remember that YOU are enough!

Justine xx

Pic below is of me 7 months post partum!

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I was lucky enough to have been sent some lovely clothing from Mamaway http://www.mamaway.com.au/

They sent me some singlets that are great for breast feeding and they have a built in bra. I like to wear them to bed as it makes things easy when you are feeding through the night. Check them out here:

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I love their seamless maternity bra, it is super comfy and soft! Very nice to wear and quite stylish as we all know maternity bra’s can be a tad on the ugly side 😉

My favourite thing about the seamless bra is that it hides beautifully under my clothes so I get support and lift but it’s also super easy for feeding Leo when I’m out on the run!

Seamless Maternity Bra

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Lastly I received one of their best selling nursing tops, it is really stylish and great to wear out when you are feeding. Looks great with a pair of jeans 🙂

Butterfly Maternity top

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They have a really lovely range of clothing and accessories for mummies so be sure to check out their website 🙂

Justine xx

I was lucky enough to be sent a few Sports Bra’s from Maternity sale. I have found them to be super comfy, great for walking and overall comfort.

I can highly recommend them to all you Fit Mummies out there who are looking for something to hold you in and keep you comfortable while you are training and breast feeding.

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Here is the link to order yours 🙂

http://www.maternitysale.com.au/high-impact-sports-nursing-bra-grey-p-145.html

Here is to us all keeping fit and healthy!

Juzzy xx

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[alert_yellow] 39 weeks pregnant, taken 3 days before Leo was born!
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Wow, nothing can prepare you for motherhood, the first weeks are definitely very challenging. Not only is your body healing but you are also coping with hormones, breast feeding, sleep deprivation and learning how to be a mummy. It is a day by day learning process and one that you have to be super patient with. I didn’t get out of the house much in the first week and there were a lot of tears. When my milk came in it was a very testing time, not only were my nipples sooooo sore but I was also coping with the hormones that would see me cry at anything. Babies need there mummies so much at the start, I know that Matt has felt a tad helpless at times as there is nothing he can do to help me. In saying that he has been a huge support and is such a great daddy, I love watching him with Leo, it warms my heart to the core.

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[alert_yellow] Here I am 4 days after the birth of our beautiful bubba Leo
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I am still very swollen, fluidy and sore here but had already dropped a significant amount of weight just from giving birth. The day after Leo was born I lost 7 kgs alone. I gained around 14kgs during my pregnancy.. During my pregnancy I trained as much as I could and ate well but also was a lot more relaxed with my food and ate more of the things I wouldn’t have prior. I enjoyed my pregnancy and embraced the changes to my body. I was lucky to end up with no abdominal separation or stretch marks. My belly is very soft here and squishy and my core is very weak but that does not phase me in the slightest. I am more proud of my body here just knowing what it went through to bring our baby into this world. Women’s bodies are truly amazing 🙂

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[alert_yellow] Here I am 10 days Post Partum [/alert_yellow]

In the first 10 days I have managed a few 10 min slow walks to the cafe with Matt and we have had a few outings as a family, this is all I could manage at this stage and am in NO way in any rush to get back into the gym. My body is still sore and healing slowly, I will see out the 6 weeks before I start up with my training again, I want to let my body heal properly. I have been eating as healthy as I can but have had a few treats cos I freakin’ deserve them 😉 I am being super kind to myself during this time as should all new mummies, I am not watching what I am eating as such, but I am keeping things balanced and as healthy as I can. Here my tummy is slowly contracting back but still very soft and squishy as to be expected! I am 4 kgs off my starting weight already but of course my body composition is so different as I lost a lot of muscle during my pregnancy.

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We are slowly getting into our groove now, it has been a bit of a blur the past few weeks but I am getting my head around it all now. I have managed a few more walks and outings with Matt and my mum who is here from NZ to help out.

I have set myself some pretty big goals for this year, not just physical ones but career ones also and I am excited to see how the year pans out. I have sourced out a fantastic trainer who I will go and see after my 6 weeks is up and start to rebuild my body under her guidance. I am not looking to jump up on stage, I just want to gain back the muscle that I have lost and be as fit and as healthy as I can. I will book in a photo shoot so that I will be kept accountable during that time and will have some photo’s to show off at the end of the 10 weeks.

I am excited to share this journey with you all and to let you all in on what is happening throughout the year as it rolls out 🙂

Juzzy xx

Birth Weight: 3.12kg
Length: 49cms
Time of birth: 8:24pm
DOB: 3/1/14

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The last few weeks of pregnancy are very testing, from the discomfort to being bored to feeling anxious then super excited, it is such a roller coaster of emotions. I struggled quite a lot in those weeks, the not knowing was killing me along with feeling so isolated and house bound. Well finally after a few weeks of frustration and waiting for our bubba to make his appearance, he came into this world!

It all started on 3/1/14 at 2am when I woke to go to the toilet, once I had got myself back into bed I started feeling bad period type cramps in my lower tummy and lower back. I lay there thinking that it would pass but it didn’t. Then I started to get these short bursts of intense pain for around 30secs then they would go away for around 5-6mins then come again. Being a first time mummy I still wasn’t 100% sure that this was IT and was laying there trying to get my head around it all. I was scared, excited, nervous, over joyed and petrified all at the same time.
I woke Matt at around 3am to tell him what had been going on and that I think I was going into labour, he was great and woke up and started to time my contractions for me. He then kept drifting off to sleep so I grabbed the phone off him and let him sleep as I had a feeling he would need it and I would need him to be at his best later that day.

The contractions didn’t stop and I started to think that our baby would be with us soon, I was so tired and wanted to sleep but being woken every 5 mins or so by the intense pain kept me from drifting off.

I woke Matt again at around 6am and told him that they hadn’t stopped and we would need to call the midwife. I think he was in a state of shock in that moment too as he was realising the reality of what was unfolding and that his son would be here with him soon.

After chatting to the midwife and her telling us that all was good and just to rest up and keep in touch with her, I lay in bed til around 10am. Matt got up and made me some breakfast and started to get his bag sorted for the hospital. I got up around 10am and had a shower and tried to be normal but jeez that was hard, I just kept crouching over in pain every 5-6 mins and then trying to carry on as normal. I ventured to the lounge and just lay on the couch for a few hours, the contractions started to slow down and I was starting to worry that it was a false alarm, we rang the midwife and she assured me that it was normal for your first baby for your contractions to be all over the place and to just keep resting and eating as I will need my strength for later.

At around 3pm I was at my whits end with the labour not really progressing and was about to take Matt upstairs to do the deed in hope that we could speed up the progress, I stood up and next thing I knew I was buckled over a chair and in the most pain I have ever felt (at that stage) for around 3-4 mins, it was a monster of a contraction that made me cry and whale in pain. I looked at Matt when it was over and said, something is definitely happening now, lets call the midwife and get to the hospital.

She told us to stay home just a bit longer and to jump in the bath, I was like ‘jeez I just want to get to the hospital and do NOT want to have the baby at home’, but we listened to her and I jumped in the bath for about an hour. My contractions were now 4 mins apart and we got the green light from our midwife to make our way into hospital.

We got organised, or Matt did as I sat on the couch hunched over in pain and then got on our way. Please note: Friday afternoon at 430pm is not a good time to be in a rush to go anywhere let alone to be having contractions in the car!!! It took us an hour to get to the hospital and I was hating the whole trip as we were driving through the city so slow and I was conscious of people on the footpath watching me having contractions.

Anyhoo, we made it there at 530pm and went straight into emergency, they took me right in and that is where things went from 7/10 pain wise to 10/10 and it happened very quickly!

The overweight and rude midwife that we had to go through 1st in emergency made me feel like I was ‘just another number’ and didnt give me any care what so ever, she was just doing her job. It is sad that people work in jobs that they don’t care about, especially in the health industry!

She checked how dilated I was and I was already 7cm, my waters broke when she checked me so then it really was GO TIME!

Matt was amazing and by my side the whole time, he had to move the car from the 10min spot to the car park and leave me, I thought he would be gone for 10mins, he got back to me in 3mins and with the bags, I couldn’t believe it! He is definitely my superman and I could not have done this without him by my side.

They wheeled me up to my birth suite and I lay side on on the bed and started having the most horrendous contractions that were making me scream, they were telling me to suck on the gas, I hated the gas and it was doing jack shit! The midwife gave me some Morphine and that too did jack shit, I was in a world of pain and there was absolutely no relief. In each of those huge contractions I would just grip onto Matt and pull his head into mine, I was squeezing anything I could grab on him and crying through the pain. He did not budge and let me just tug, pull, grab and squeeze anything and everything that I could on him.

I was screaming at the midwife for more pain relief and she was all calm and just said we had to wait to see if the Morphine would do anything, being told to wait during contractions is not my idea of fun as 30secs seems like a life time. At 730pm she checked to see how far I was and told me then and there that I was fully dilated and there was no time or need for more pain relief, she said to me ‘you can have this baby out in an hour’.

Now to tell a competitive person that and to give them a time frame meant only one thing.. LET’S GET THIS BABY OUT!!!!

It might sound strange but the pushing part was not at all as bad as I was expecting it to be, yes it hurt at times but to know what the outcome was going to be and to actually feel what was happening was an amazing experience. Each contraction that came I gripped the bed head and I pushed with all my might, Matt was a fantastic birthing partner and was in my corner the whole time saying all the right things and giving me the strength I needed to get through it all, we really do make a great team.

The head was finally out and and 824pm the rest of our baby came out, Leo was on my chest and we had instant eye contact. He lifted his head up and looked at me, it was the most amazing moment of my life. The pain had gone in an instant and in that moment I was filled with so much love and appreciation for my body, my baby and my amazing fiance.. We had done it, we had created an amazing life and there he was in front of us waiting for his life on the outside world to start.

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The next 2 hours Leo just lay there and we talked, laughed, cried and just absorbed every moment and looked at every part of his perfect wee body. He latched on after about an hour and I had my first experience of feeding my baby, truly amazing to feel this and to know that I am now giving our baby life.

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Life as we knew it was over and the next exciting journey as a family was about to begin. The whole experience of being pregnant to giving birth has made me so proud of my body and changed my perception on life as a whole. Leo is our whole world now and we are going to give him the best life that we can. Let our next exciting chapter as parents begin, we are more than ready for it!!!

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Things have definitely been slowing down of late. I stopped working and teaching classes at around 32 weeks and since then I have been getting things ready at home and trying to enjoy the down time. I am not very good at doing nothing so have struggled a little bit but try and get out of the house at least once a day to either do some light weights or meet up with Matt or a friend.
We had our baby shower a few weeks ago which was really lovely, it was so nice to celebrate our unborn bubba with a heap of my girlfriends. This whole pregnancy has gone so dam fast, things just come and go so quickly, somedays I still feel like I am getting my head around the fact that I am actually having a baby.

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It has been quite a blessing that I now have a wedding to organise as that has kept me busy trying to get the big things booked and sorted. I know that once the baby comes my time will be very limited so I am trying to do as much as I can now while I have the freedom and the time. We are getting married at the Portsea Hotel on 6th Feb 2015, this gives us a year to bond with our baby and find our routine before we tie the knot. Also it gives me a lot of time to get my body back into shape without doing anything crazy or taking silly risks to lose the baby weight. I want to look healthy and fit at our wedding and I am excited to start the post baby process and get strong and fit again but want to give myself time and not put myself under any unnecessary pressure.

So far to date I have gained 12kgs, I feel like I am getting bigger by the day now that we are into the final stages. I am still training, some weeks are better than others, on average I have done weights 3-4 times per week. I just take my time and enjoy moving my body, I am not doing anything crazy, more so just doing something because it makes me feel normal and keeps me sane!

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Food has been really good pretty much the whole way through, I am living very much with a balanced mentality and eating what I want to when I want too. I haven’t set any strict rules on myself and have enjoyed eating healthy with more extra treats than normal 😉 I have noticed that I just can’t eat as much as normal lately, I seem to get very full a lot quicker. I guess there is limited room for food in my belly now as bubs grows, this makes Matt very happy as he gets to finish my meals for me lol!

Once I hit 35 weeks I really started to notice a huge difference in my body, I am definitely not as mobile anymore and am relying on Matt to help me sit up and help me a lot more with various things around the house. I find this whole experience so interesting, as tough as it is at times it makes me appreciate so many things that we take for granted. I honestly have so much respect for women who have carried and had children, it really is a whole another level of being selfless and patient. Females go through so much to bring life into this world and we definitely deserve a lot more credit than what we get at times!

Well the next time I blog about this journey I am hoping it will be to share my birthing story with you all.. How surreal and exciting is that?!!?

Let the next exciting chapter begin!!!!

Juzzy xxx

1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.

2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power

They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change

Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.

4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control

You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognise that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone

Mentally strong people recognise that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks

They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past

Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasise about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.

8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over

Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behaviour and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.

9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success

Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognise recognise recognise recognise recognise recognise recognise with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure

Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time

Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.

12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.

13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results

Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.

Reference:

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/13-things-mentally-strong-people-dont.html

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The struggle for “weight loss” and “fitness” goals is often really just a struggle for body image approval and self-love in my opinion. One only needs to take a look around social media and see the endless self-portraits of “progress” photos and selfie’s to see that far too many people feel inclined to show off weight loss and lean bodies as an indicator of health.

While some of us may be able to see through this and recognise the true motivating factor in the over-glorification of the “documentary of getting lean”, there are way MORE people who are unknowingly being misled about the true state of what is is to be FIT and HEALTHY.

For the general public it can be hard to grasp onto reality as athlete’s and ‘role model’s’ claim to have perfect lives and eat organic and are happy 24/7. When people look up to someone who is lean and claiming to be happy all the time they then instantly connect that to be happy and healthy you need to have abs and be lean which is so mis-leading.

Many of the misled are young women and women who are already struggling with depression or body image issues as they are witnessing this mainstream distortion between body image, beauty and true inner health. They are then inclined to follow in their “idols” footsteps in then obsessing over food, diet, and body image without gaining inner peace and self acceptance and truly understanding their own personal ‘WHY’. This is a large scale health tragedy unfolding for our youth and for those that are not strong enough to see through the images and claims of perfection.

They are unaware that beauty and fitness is generated from the inside out, in order to love and nurture your body in any shape or form you need self acceptance and love. Your health should not be dictated by the way you look, your health is based on your lifestyle, your mindset, your belief system and your ability to accept yourself for who you are. You should not be aiming to deprive yourself to look a certain way or lose persecutive of what reality actually is, you should be striving for all over health and wellbeing meaning nurturing your 4 bodies- emotional, spiritual, mental and physical.

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The fact is, when we women learn to completely love and accept ourselves in any physical condition or season of life, our motivation to create change will manifest itself from a much healthier place. We are then able to set health goals according to what our bodies and spirits actually NEED rather than falling prey to what our flesh tells us we WANT.

When are you going to stop admiring people who glorify extreme dieting? Dieting is NOT sexy or healthy! Yes it takes a lot of willpower to get super lean and ripped but is this admirable when you don’t know the true underlying motivation of every individual? What is willpower if willpower can actually set you up for a very unhealthy relationship with food and ‘normal living’. When you ‘diet’ you are actually engaging in self- deprivation, denying yourself of your body’s NATURAL cravings and needs. The cravings are there as signals. And it’s the “signalling” that needs to be addressed by examining your lifestyle and approach to diet and nutrition.

You see, hunger is so much more than a physical feeling. It’s a highly emotional and even social cue from your body that you simply can not just “master” without acknowledging it’s divine intelligence. So these people that you may be admiring for submitting themselves to this relentless cycle of dieting could very well be modelling a very dysfunctional and disconnected relationship with food. They are setting themselves up for the ultimate “diet deprivation backlash” and you can bet they WON’T be glorifying that all over social media when it happens.

Stop thinking that you need to follow a diet or have abs to be happy. You can wish and compare all you want, that will get you all of nowhere and could set you up for a very unhealthy journey! Don’t take a lot of what you see and read as hearsay, a lot of it is just there for self gratification and not to help the general public. Trust a few and do your own thing, believe what you need to to be YOUR best and to nurture your spirit! Eat real real food to nourish your body, stop counting calories and obsessing over food, dieting and the scales. The reflection you see looking back at you is a reflection of what you think of yourself not what you put in your mouth!

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Juz xx